Loss is universal and can be the most stressful event you will ever experience. The grieving process is highly individual and often connected to culture. It also depends on degree of attachment and age of the deceased and whether the death is sudden or if there has been some time for acceptance.
When dealing with an unexpected death the normal process can be divided into four phases:
- For the first few days we are in shock
- Over the following days or even months we slip into numbness hopelessness and pining
- After a couple of months we reach acceptance
- Followed by resolution. (6 months and onwards we enter a chronic residual phase, when some symptoms of grief can still be experienced)
Following a group of Indian mourners for a year showed that the only sign of grief that did not decline was idealising and looking at old photos of the deceased. The increase can be explained by an anniversary held in honor of the deceased.
Photos, idealisation and anniversaries are, quite frankly, not too very bad scars to carry with you for the rest of your life.Back to index