I have probably always given people advice. Even if they didn’t ask for it.
Recently, it’s been about the importance of ‘following your dreams’, ‘fulfil your potential ’ and that kind of stuff (life crisis anyone?). I have become some kind of preacher, shoving my ‘good advice’ in the face of others. But why am I not living my life according to my own great advice?
Giving your friends advice can affect you in different ways. It all depends on the situation. If you are just casually helping a friend in need, your advice will not impact what you do next. But if you happen to give advice related to goals in life, you should watch out. If you advice a friend on how to reach a goal that you happen share, you might become motivated to get yourself closer to that goal.
However, if you feel very strongly about achieving it you might be better of not saying anything. It turns out that giving advice on how to reach a shared life goal that you really want to achieve, actually makes you slack off. Confusing? Sure is.
The theory goes, that your brain will assume that the friend takes your advice and gets closer to the goal. Since the advice came from you, vicariously you have made the same progress. It also makes it seem really easy to achieve the goal and therefore you will put less effort in.
Not sure that is why I don’t take my own advice, but it sounds like a good excuse.